And happy birthday to you too Miki! And Kiyoteru and Ai and Shouta!!
I have decided to run a Secret Santa with some help from ask-akita-neru.
If you’d like to join:
Simply like or reblog this post so we can get your URL. URLs will be sent out to peoples ask boxes by ask-akita-neru at random. When you get a URL prepare to send that person a virtual present!…
Don’t worry, I got yo’ back. The good stuff’s all right here.
((I don’t know how many I can answer, but feel free to trick or treat~))
I apologize in advance if this is a bit jumbled. I kind of jumped back and forth while typing it up and I’m kind of really annoyed right now at this entire situation because I’ve seen it play out for the past few weeks now. I’ve tried rereading this and reworded it where I can, but there’s probably something I missed regarding the flow. I may also have missed a key point somewhere, I don’t know. So if you have something to add, by all means…
I woke up today to read about an anon who claimed their spamming of an askblog’s inbox was “just innocent questions” even after the mod had already made it clear the questions were unappreciated. Let me explain something: when it goes past a couple messages, when the mod has already already responded or has already had the character respond in a way that shows that the mod is unimpressed by your spamming, you aren’t simply “asking innocent questions” anymore. You are harassing the mod. Full stop. I’ve seen anons merrily ignoring mods’ requests to not ask certain types of questions, anons trying to press an issue that the mods are trying to move past, and anons trying to force mods into a corner to answer questions they are not comfortable with. How can you even think that’s okay? I’ll give an example: several askblogs have stated point-blank that they do not want people sending asks about rape only to have anons completely ignore this. That is not okay, people!
The fact is, there have been several forms of harassment to askblog mods lately. Anons have been spamming with questions that make the mods uncomfortable, trying to force their way with requests/anon magic that the mods have stated they will not do (“Well how about just for three asks, then?” “YOU CAN’T SAY NO TO THIS ONE, YOU HAVE TO DO IT!” and so forth), the insistence that the askblog has to be run a certain way or that a character has to be portrayed a certain way, the complaints that askblogs aren’t answering quickly enough or - when mods do start updating - that they’re updating too quickly, and so forth. I’ve seen mods get upset, I’ve seen mods feel like they’re doing something wrong, I’ve seen mods who question if they should even keep their askblogs open anymore, all because of this sort of harassment.
These are not machines running the askblogs; they are people, and you’re taking advantage of their kindness by trying to force them to do or respond to things they’ve already made clear they do not want to do/respond to or that they’ve already made clear they are uncomfortable with. It’s about time people start understanding that.
If you don’t like how an askblog mod is handling his or her askblog, stop following that askblog. If you’re annoyed that a mod does not wish to answer certain questions because you’re making that mod uncomfortable with the questions, make your own askblog where you’ll answer those questions. You’re not entitled to a response; askblogs and the characters’ responses are up to the moderators’ discretion.
And mods would probably be a lot more inclined to answer questions and continue having fun with their askblogs if people would show the same amount of respect when asking questions as the mods show by answering them.
It’s a hobby, not a job. It’s supposed to be something fun. So, please anons: stop turning it into a nightmare.
